“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20
Anger (n.) a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
Why Do We Get Angry?
Emotions have a hierarchy. We have primary emotions, secondary emotions, and even tertiary emotions. While we are in the overwhelming typhoon of emotion, it can be difficult to keep this in mind. Until we learn how to identify, experience, and manage our emotions, it may feel like we are being consumed by them.
Anger is certainly one of those all consuming emotions. From our head to our toes we can feel the blood boiling effects of anger. Anger is so pervasive that there is such a thing as anger management. Unmanageability of our anger can result in harmful side effects. We can intentionally seek to hurt people we love. We shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the spirit. We keep ourselves in the past, unable to connect with the present or be open to the future.
Even though we might be unrelentingly convinced that we are angry and “that’s all”, we’re much more than angry. We’re sad. We’re scared. Anger is a secondary emotion to fear and sadness. When we have been done an injustice by someone else’s hands, we are much more quick to be angry than admit that we are hurt and afraid. More than anger, our need for survival gets in the way of being in those emotions.
At times, we turn our anger toward God and to the world when we get hurt. If God is in charge, how, why, would He allow something like this to happen- whatever ‘this’ was? Suddenly, everyone, especially God, becomes a predator. In our raw and vulnerable state, we perceive everyone as a threat, thus they become the focus of our anger.
It is so easy to forget that God gave us free will. Men act on their own behalf, though they are capable of receiving direction from God’s will. As James wrote, anger does not produce righteousness. Others are not showing their righteousness toward us when they hurt us. God believes in our authentic selves, the selves that can be afraid or sad and turn to him. In fact, God loves us so unconditionally that he’s completely okay when we are angry with him.
What if we could believe that we were already healed from the hurt we have suffered, the fear we feel, and the sadness we experience? God holds that promise. Everything is already okay. It always has been.
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